Start with You

Blaming is almost natural.

Something happens to you. Most people will analyze the situation, find out who made what happen, and conclude that 'It Happens'.

May I suggest that no matter what happens to you, believe that you can do something about it.

In this way you are taking the power over your life. If you are in control then you can do something to heal, move forward, or even avoid future pain.

You are the most powerful person in your life, use that power.

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