Leave The Violence

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Mom. Dad. Sister. Brother. Aunt. Uncle. Grandma. Grandpa. Cousin. Family is just a word. Blood or not, they are still just people. Try this exercise: Replace the title with their name. Using their name, describe the person. What do they value? Using their name, describe how they interact with you. Do they respect your boundaries? Do they support your dreams? There is no excuse for abuse. Too many beautiful people that I have known stay in unhealthy situations for years simply because of a title. They get disrespected and hurt. I patiently sit on the sidelines and watch them go on the emotional roller coaster. Eventually they start becoming more independent. They take time away from the abuse then are shocked at how intense the abuse is when they get back. You are not a 'bad' person for no longer associating with unhealthy people. Try this exercise with everyone in your life. Those that respect you, support you, and embrace you- give a genuine Thank You to. Those that don't-...

While common blog etiquette would have me posting for my readers, today I simply must disagree. This life is for me to live. I write because it is my passion and I will certainly get to a point where all my posts are done ahead of time. But today is just not that day. Today I am less than perfect. My posts are late, I'm tired from being up with Aidin all night, and I'm focused on offline tasks. This is my passion and it will grow stronger once my offline life becomes more solid. Create yourself today, Cyi

As my son nears 6 months on the 10th, today (April 8th, 2010) I am reading up on the subject of toilet training. When you use diapers on children they become desensitized to the process of peeing/pooping and never form the physical-mental bond to the muscles that allow control of elimination. This fact really hit me. I have memories of being very young yet 'old' for still wetting my bed. My father would put my urine stained mattress out on the side of the garage for the 'whole' neighborhood to see what a 'bad' child I was when I did wet the bed. Plus he 'spanked' me. One year I got a waterbed. I loved it because it had a cubby under it that I would hang out in. At this time I still wet the bed. My parents then got a mat that they told me I had to lay on. When it sensed moisture it would send an electric shock through the mat. To put it mildly- those shocks hurt. It went off sometimes even when I was dry. The torture did nothing to help me strengthen m...

Blaming is almost natural. Something happens to you. Most people will analyze the situation, find out who made what happen, and conclude that 'It Happens'. May I suggest that no matter what happens to you, believe that you can do something about it. In this way you are taking the power over your life. If you are in control then you can do something to heal, move forward, or even avoid future pain. You are the most powerful person in your life, use that power.

I believe that I am understanding a bit better. Violent people seem to be living lives where their own needs are not being met in healthy ways. If you are in an abusive home and are too young to leave- observe those around you. How do they meet their monetary, emotional, and physical needs? Do these ways work in a manner that is healthy and efficient? I am turning this philosophy toward myself and seeing that my own life is needing to find balance. It is easy to tell others how to live their lives- but it is wise to show by example.